How soon is too soon?

As adults we think that we should be able to do whatever we want right? Is what feels right at the moment, always right in the long run? One of my favorite Kanye West songs is Addiction. He says,” Why everything that’s supposed to be bad make me feel so good, everything they told me not to is exactly what I would.” Being an adult who’s STILL in the dating hustle (I mean that in the best way possible), I sometimes wonder…How soon is too soon? I can never get good feedback from men on this topic, but how soon is too soon to enter in an intimate or sexual relationship? I know the word of God says that the right time is after marriage, but that’s not always (or usually) the case.

So should there be a three month rule, three day rule, no rule? How is this supposed to work? Does the guy not respect you or want a relationship with you if you “let him in” too soon? Everybody says, you’ll know when it’s time…you’ll feel it. What if I don’t?

I’ve heard different things from different men. Some say that if they don’t get it on the first date you won’t hear from them anymore, then some guys says the exact opposite. How do you know which guy you’re going out with right then? And an even bigger question is why do women always make it about what the guy wants? Ladies I think that is one of our problems. We are so ready to be in a relationship that we completely cater to the man from the beginning. We let things that bother us slide cause we want him to like/love us too badly. We will unknowingly make ourselves unhappy, cause we are in such a rush to make him our man. We have to stop blaming everything on the dudes we date and start actually taking a look at the dudes we date. If you have to do this much convincing and catering to keep a man around then, “He’s just not that into you!” Let him know what makes you comfortable and what makes you happy. Let him have the opportunity to cater to you just as much as you are catering to him. Talk about things and then compromise. Come to some middle ground and stop taking on the full load. There are two people in the relationship for a reason. If it’s not the right time for you, then let him know.

So here’s my opinion, cause everyone’s entitled to it…
PRAY! Ask God if he’s the best pick for you. Any man that is trying to rush you into doing something that doesn’t feel right IS ALL WRONG!! Don’t need him so bad that you forget about your real needs!

BRITT